Expectations is an interesting concept if you think about it.
Like in the movie 500 days of summer, when it plays the scenario of Tom going over to Googly-eyed girls apartment and it splits the screen with the actual events and his expectations of events.
If you change your expectations, you can change how you feel about people/things.
If you don't expect your friend to call, because you know your friend is bad at calling, you don't get disappointed when they do not call.
If you don't expect someone to stick around, because you know they don't really want to, then when they ditch it's not so bad.
The problem, I find, is that to have realistic expectations of things, you must have a firm grasp on situations and people. If you have unrealistic expectations, usually that's because either A)you don't know the person or situation well enough to know what to realistically expect or B) you're dumb or C) you know what to expect, but you're an honest to god hopeful hopeless person who will continue to expect and want more than you will receive.
I think I tend to fall into the C category, always hoping to be surprised. To be fair, sometimes I fall into the B category. However, I'm going to try to change things a little bit. Not a new years resolution, mind you, more of a way of training my mind a bit differently.
We'll see.
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if you expect the worst, you are either pleasantly surprised, or you're right. it's kind of a win-win. i think that is one of the benefits of pessimism. i just thought i'd throw that out there.
ReplyDeleteit's okay to want people to exceed your expectations, though. i think believing the best of someone is maybe a little bit more brave. it hurts like hell when you're wrong, but it's nice to live in a world with hope.
i'm not sure if any of that made sense. i love you.